To find out the gender we decided to have our Dr mark down boy or girl on a card and put it in an envelope. We kept this envelope closed a whole two days until christmas morning when we opened it under the tree.
So we finally know the gender. It was such a treat to get to know on Christmas morning, by far the best gift under the tree. When we started this process, we were open to either a boy or a girl, as we want two kids, and one of each. Its funny that even though we have just found out the gender of our first, we are already worried about the future. What happens if baby two is the same gender, do we try for a baby three? how about baby three, then do we try for baby four? Well i don't know about you, but when we haven't even had one, its hard to imagine three or four little ones running around.
Knowing the gender gives us such freedom. We now can plan the colors of the room, the theme of the walls, and the cute baby outfits to occupy the first year of the baby's life. I think that hardest part is going to be thinking of names. Up to this point, we were able to think of general things that we like, but the reality has set in, and its time to go from general, to first and middle names, and even spelling comes into play. We want something that is unique enough to not be on the no fly list, like john white, but not bizarre to the point that people say, were your parents on something when they named you?
O, did i go all this time and not say what gender we were having? how rude! I guess we wanted to wait a bit, as the doctor was only 90 percent sure in December, and we just had another appointment where they could give us the 110 percent answer. ITS A BOY! Its strange that when they confirm the gender, they give you a nice picture of his package on the ultrasound. Is that something we should save until he brings home his first girlfriend to embarrass him? I mean if we have a picture of 5 days after conception, then what else can get better then that.
Having a son is something both Kristy and I knew was coming. I had predicted it since before we got pregnant, in part because i think we were so excited for a daughter. Kristy also had dreams about holding a baby boy in her arms, which was a sign. As the reality sinks in, its getting better and better every moment. I get to teach my son to play sports, and to wrestle and rough house. I get to have him help me with construction projects and work on the car, and everything that typical boys do. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not sexist, and if i had a daughter, i would offer to have her do the same. But its just surreal that I'll have a son that will emulate my moves and try to grow up to be like me. A good friend of my was very excited we were having a boy and said "the world needs more good guys". It sort of caught me off guard, but its very true. I don't claim to be a saint, but i know that I am a man that puts his family first, and has such a strong sense of doing good for others. And the thought that my son will grow up with some of the same values makes me proud already.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Monday, December 20, 2010
Weekly Pictures
Week 1
Week 2
Week 3
Week 4
Week 5
Week 6
Week 7
Week 8
Week 9
Week 10
Week 11
Week 13
Week 13.5
Week 15I know i missed a few weeks in there but you get the general idea that my belly is starting to grow!!
FREAKING OUT!!
I feel time is flying by! I’m just about half way to the due date which scares me completely as I feel I have not made any progress on getting done what needs to be done for this baby. I have no nursery set up, I have no registry completed and I have no idea what I’m really getting myself in for. I’m sure this is completely normal but it is freaking me out and I feel that no one understands. I really like to be prepared ahead of time for any major event. I mean I had 2 years to plan my wedding and I still was freaking out that I wasn’t prepared. Well I guess in a way I had 2 years of my life to plan for this event however when your trying to get pregnant you really don’t go and buy baby furniture and register as then your family looks at you like you’re a nut case.
How does one ever really prepare for their life to change in unimaginable ways? I mean I know I need to get the basics, I need a daycare, a place for the child to sleep and some other random stuff and all I have so far is oh that’s right nothing!!! I have 4 months left before the earliest I could go and in my head 4 months is not long enough to get ready for this. I lie in bed thinking about how our guest bedroom how to be converted to a nursery and that means clearing out all the junk that has accumulated and actually put a closet system back in the closet. I think about how am I suppose to know how to change a diaper, I think about how can I possibly find a daycare that I can trust to love and protect my child 10 hours a day, I think about how is my relationship with John going to change and how do I protect it so it doesn’t. Pretty much I lie away at night freaking out.
How can I feel so ready and excited and yet so scared and unprepared at the same time? I just need to get through the holidays before I freak out too much as everyone I look to for advice and help has too much on their plates right now to help me stop freaking out.
How does one ever really prepare for their life to change in unimaginable ways? I mean I know I need to get the basics, I need a daycare, a place for the child to sleep and some other random stuff and all I have so far is oh that’s right nothing!!! I have 4 months left before the earliest I could go and in my head 4 months is not long enough to get ready for this. I lie in bed thinking about how our guest bedroom how to be converted to a nursery and that means clearing out all the junk that has accumulated and actually put a closet system back in the closet. I think about how am I suppose to know how to change a diaper, I think about how can I possibly find a daycare that I can trust to love and protect my child 10 hours a day, I think about how is my relationship with John going to change and how do I protect it so it doesn’t. Pretty much I lie away at night freaking out.
How can I feel so ready and excited and yet so scared and unprepared at the same time? I just need to get through the holidays before I freak out too much as everyone I look to for advice and help has too much on their plates right now to help me stop freaking out.
Waiting game
There hasn't been a ton to post about recently, as we are currently in that waiting game. Its weird to say, as what is life but waiting for the next moment. I mean before being pregnant, we were waiting to become it. Now that we are pregnant, we are waiting for our child to arrive. It feels like being in an airport. You rush to get there, hours ahead, only to sit in a cramped terminal, waiting for something to happen. We are ready to have our number called, but at the same time, we are terrified of how different life will become.
The scary thing that we are coming to realize is that we are waiting, and yet still traveling at hundreds of miles an hour. Picture yourself standing up, looking at your feet. They are not moving. Now look up, and notice that everything around you is flying past in a blur. Its hard to accept that at this time next year, we will have a 8 month old baby crawling around. Its strange to think that next Christmas we will begin new traditions, with our own family. It is not an easy thing to decide as these traditions will be something that our children remember for their entire life.
We are excited this week to get our next checkup, and hopefully learn the gender of our baby. Fingers crossed that the baby is just as excited to show us and cooperates. At that point the waiting game will go away for a bit, as we can begin to plan that much more. We can organize clothes, setup the nursery, and think more about possible names. We will be more then halfway to the baby at that point, which is scary. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were so excited to hear the news we were pregnant? And now in 4 months, we'll be carrying a bundle of joy around to meet the world.
I'm sure we will post again soon, as the news will be too good to not let everyone know, but until then, wish us luck on the baby's cooperation and have an excellent holiday everyone
The scary thing that we are coming to realize is that we are waiting, and yet still traveling at hundreds of miles an hour. Picture yourself standing up, looking at your feet. They are not moving. Now look up, and notice that everything around you is flying past in a blur. Its hard to accept that at this time next year, we will have a 8 month old baby crawling around. Its strange to think that next Christmas we will begin new traditions, with our own family. It is not an easy thing to decide as these traditions will be something that our children remember for their entire life.
We are excited this week to get our next checkup, and hopefully learn the gender of our baby. Fingers crossed that the baby is just as excited to show us and cooperates. At that point the waiting game will go away for a bit, as we can begin to plan that much more. We can organize clothes, setup the nursery, and think more about possible names. We will be more then halfway to the baby at that point, which is scary. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were so excited to hear the news we were pregnant? And now in 4 months, we'll be carrying a bundle of joy around to meet the world.
I'm sure we will post again soon, as the news will be too good to not let everyone know, but until then, wish us luck on the baby's cooperation and have an excellent holiday everyone
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
The first wave
Up to this point, Kristy had lucked out in the morning sickness department. I mean she totally deserves it with all the stuff she had to go through, she had here share of pain and discomfort. But no throwing up, none at all.
That all changed this week, and it came on rather fast. From one day everything being fine, to the next throwing up so often that it was easier to lay on a pillow on the floor of the bathroom then to rest on the couch. We couldn’t tell if this was a bug, which many people have been getting, or if she was finally getting the morning sickness that everyone talks about.
The sickness continued over the period of 24 hours and it was obvious that it was a bug. Whew, because if this was morning sickness, then it would be a long pregnancy. After that 24 hour period, she began to slowly get back her appetite and no longer felt the need to get so friendly with the porcelain throne. We are glad to say that its over.
…
We just had our first appointment with our OB, and got a chance to learn a lot more about the process ahead of us. You would think some of it would scare us, but at this point, there is no fear, just a strong sense of we have lots of plans to make, and not too much time.
The ultrasound was a little different, as this time we got to hear the heartbeat, which was a neat experience, compared to just seeing it on a screen. The doctor also was very good in showing us the arms, legs, head, ect of our baby. In fact, as we were looking at the arms, at that same moment, our baby waved. I feel bad for Kristy as since she is on her back, the viewing of all these amazing moments isn’t quite as easy to see. Needless to say I waved back.
In addition to various checkpoints, we got to learn more about our specific situation. With our unicorn uterus, the doctor felt that it’s the most likely that we will be delivering closer to the 37 weeks area, instead of the normal 40. We also learned that they will try to get a good reading on the gender of the child by Dec 23, to allow us to open an envelope on christmas day and learn which gender we will be having.
The waiting game is now old hat. We are excited to be on this journey, and again thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. Its far enough for us to be comfortable letting people know, so you know what that means. Here we come Facebook!
That all changed this week, and it came on rather fast. From one day everything being fine, to the next throwing up so often that it was easier to lay on a pillow on the floor of the bathroom then to rest on the couch. We couldn’t tell if this was a bug, which many people have been getting, or if she was finally getting the morning sickness that everyone talks about.
The sickness continued over the period of 24 hours and it was obvious that it was a bug. Whew, because if this was morning sickness, then it would be a long pregnancy. After that 24 hour period, she began to slowly get back her appetite and no longer felt the need to get so friendly with the porcelain throne. We are glad to say that its over.
…
We just had our first appointment with our OB, and got a chance to learn a lot more about the process ahead of us. You would think some of it would scare us, but at this point, there is no fear, just a strong sense of we have lots of plans to make, and not too much time.
The ultrasound was a little different, as this time we got to hear the heartbeat, which was a neat experience, compared to just seeing it on a screen. The doctor also was very good in showing us the arms, legs, head, ect of our baby. In fact, as we were looking at the arms, at that same moment, our baby waved. I feel bad for Kristy as since she is on her back, the viewing of all these amazing moments isn’t quite as easy to see. Needless to say I waved back.
In addition to various checkpoints, we got to learn more about our specific situation. With our unicorn uterus, the doctor felt that it’s the most likely that we will be delivering closer to the 37 weeks area, instead of the normal 40. We also learned that they will try to get a good reading on the gender of the child by Dec 23, to allow us to open an envelope on christmas day and learn which gender we will be having.
The waiting game is now old hat. We are excited to be on this journey, and again thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. Its far enough for us to be comfortable letting people know, so you know what that means. Here we come Facebook!
O no, what does that mean?
Two weeks before our first appointment with our OB, we decided to tell john’s side of the family. It was quite a challenge to wait this long, as a number of them read this blog, so they are looking for an update, and we had to be very selective about our excitement. In fact, John’s sister was kind enough to be our proxy of getting everyone together.
She gathered the family’s together under the guise of just wanting to hang out. We had so many plans as to how to tell the family. But the biggest thing that limited us was knowing that we would have to tell everyone quick, as when we came over, people would be asking us how we are. We ended up starting up the get together with a family picture.
However, instead of the usual “say cheese”, I took the picture and said “say Kristy’s pregnant…”. The looks were excellent. From some there was a cloud of confusion, only to be whipped away by the excitement of understanding what was just said. Others had the reaction of “really? … really?”. I luckily got the whole saga on camera, as the reactions were amazing, and finally we got a chance to get this great secret out into the open a bit.
Everything was going good, until one evening, Kristy saw a bit of spotting begin to happen. At first, she didn’t think much, but the spotting continued for the next day and at that point we were growing increasingly concerned as to what was happening. Our appointment was still not for another week, but if something had gone wrong, it was time to know now, not wait with the worry influencing our every thought.
We scheduled an appointment with our RE the next day, and they were very kind saying many couples need a re-affirming appointment. That gave us some comfort, that we were not alone with worries. By the next day, the spotting had went away, but we still wanted to know, what was happening.
This appoint was better then our first, as the doctor took lots of time to show us the development of our baby. We got two pictures, and the piece of mind that everything was going amazingly. I’m sure this wont be the last time we want the piece of mind when it comes to this child, so its good to know that there are amazing doctors all around us to ensure everything goes smoothly.
She gathered the family’s together under the guise of just wanting to hang out. We had so many plans as to how to tell the family. But the biggest thing that limited us was knowing that we would have to tell everyone quick, as when we came over, people would be asking us how we are. We ended up starting up the get together with a family picture.
However, instead of the usual “say cheese”, I took the picture and said “say Kristy’s pregnant…”. The looks were excellent. From some there was a cloud of confusion, only to be whipped away by the excitement of understanding what was just said. Others had the reaction of “really? … really?”. I luckily got the whole saga on camera, as the reactions were amazing, and finally we got a chance to get this great secret out into the open a bit.
Everything was going good, until one evening, Kristy saw a bit of spotting begin to happen. At first, she didn’t think much, but the spotting continued for the next day and at that point we were growing increasingly concerned as to what was happening. Our appointment was still not for another week, but if something had gone wrong, it was time to know now, not wait with the worry influencing our every thought.
We scheduled an appointment with our RE the next day, and they were very kind saying many couples need a re-affirming appointment. That gave us some comfort, that we were not alone with worries. By the next day, the spotting had went away, but we still wanted to know, what was happening.
This appoint was better then our first, as the doctor took lots of time to show us the development of our baby. We got two pictures, and the piece of mind that everything was going amazingly. I’m sure this wont be the last time we want the piece of mind when it comes to this child, so its good to know that there are amazing doctors all around us to ensure everything goes smoothly.
its too early for graduation
About at the 5 week mark, we had our first doctors appointment, where we get the visual confirmation that Kristy was in fact growing another life inside of her. Those weeks of waiting were a bit hard, as she didn’t feel super pregnant, but not as bad as the five days, as we knew that we were. We had so much excitement for our appointment as we were told that we would be able to see the heartbeat of the baby, which many people don’t get to do until much farther along in the pregnancy. It would also in theory be the last time we met with our fertility doctors before transitioning to the person who would deliver our child into the world.
For all the buildup of the day, it was a bit of a letdown now that we are done. What we thought would be an in depth appointment, turned out to only last about 10 minutes. Not that it wasn’t amazing to know that our baby was healthy, but it just went by too quick. One thing that bothered us was that our doctor kept referring to our baby as “your pregnancy”. “your pregnancy looks good” … “your pregnancy has a good heartbeat” … ect. We have worked so hard and long to have this child, that to label it as just a pregnancy, seems like a mean thing to do.
The other thing that wasn’t as fun, was that at the five week stage, there is not any definition to the ultrasound picture. Its sort of a blob. Don’t get me wrong, it’s the cutest blob I have ever seen, and to know that in that blob is our future child, made we weak in the knees, but still, it wouldn’t kill the baby to be able to way and just give us a little “hi guys!” would it?
After the quick appointment, we got a printed picture as well as the congratulations from the doctor as to graduating from RE to OB. For those of you that are not up to the newest lingo, that’s Reproductive doc to delivery doc. I guess there is a lot of lingo that im learning, as apparently im a DH, which she tells me is a dear husband.
We are used to waiting at this point, but its another 5 weeks until we meet our new doctor, and we already realize that time is flying and today is graduation from doctors, and graduation from kindergarten, college, and everything else is just around the corner.
For all the buildup of the day, it was a bit of a letdown now that we are done. What we thought would be an in depth appointment, turned out to only last about 10 minutes. Not that it wasn’t amazing to know that our baby was healthy, but it just went by too quick. One thing that bothered us was that our doctor kept referring to our baby as “your pregnancy”. “your pregnancy looks good” … “your pregnancy has a good heartbeat” … ect. We have worked so hard and long to have this child, that to label it as just a pregnancy, seems like a mean thing to do.
The other thing that wasn’t as fun, was that at the five week stage, there is not any definition to the ultrasound picture. Its sort of a blob. Don’t get me wrong, it’s the cutest blob I have ever seen, and to know that in that blob is our future child, made we weak in the knees, but still, it wouldn’t kill the baby to be able to way and just give us a little “hi guys!” would it?
After the quick appointment, we got a printed picture as well as the congratulations from the doctor as to graduating from RE to OB. For those of you that are not up to the newest lingo, that’s Reproductive doc to delivery doc. I guess there is a lot of lingo that im learning, as apparently im a DH, which she tells me is a dear husband.
We are used to waiting at this point, but its another 5 weeks until we meet our new doctor, and we already realize that time is flying and today is graduation from doctors, and graduation from kindergarten, college, and everything else is just around the corner.
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